‘You can’t force chemistry to exist where it doesn’t, the same way you can’t deny it when it does’ and I totally agree. For me, one of the most attractive things in a guy isn’t necessarily a physical trait, it’s that unexplainable vibe that you feel when you’re around them and you legit can’t describe the feeling if you tried. It’s like you’re attracted to each other on a whole different level and it’s honestly the best feeling in the world, find someone who sets your soul on fire, vibes don’t lie.
Have you ever ‘snogged’ someone and thought nah, not for me? I think personally you can tell so much about someone from the kiss. I would say some past experiences I’ve legit craved their kisses and wanted to SNOG them over and over again like it was somewhat addictive. I’m going to sound like the biggest weirdo, but there’s this kind of almost scent? I duno. I think it’s the smell of chemistry is how I would describe it, but I’m unsure if it’s got a proper name. Like can I say that I enjoy the taste of some kisses? OMG. I can’t deal with how weird this is all sounding but it’s legit a thing. Anyways.. some guys I’ve snogged before, I would think yeah you’re hot, snog them and be like ew get me away asap. It’s like the kisses ain’t vibing and you’re like oh, what a waste of feeling attracted to them?
Googles answers to Why we kiss?
- Apparently you kiss to see if there is a connection
- It builds an emotional attachment
- KISSING IS LIKE A SMELL AND TASTE TEST – OMG I KNEW IT!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oi so I read up on…Huffingtonpost.com and I quote.. ‘Researchers have discovered that there is a scent we pick up on when we are kissing — and it’s believed to be related to a person’s DNA. Women are most attracted to the scent of a man who has a genetic code most different from themselves.’ Maybe this explains what I was trying to say looool. It’s so true though. Some guys I kiss and I’m like, that was so shit. And some I can’t stop kissing and nothing about it has to do with how physically attractive I find them. It’s a mad ting.
So basically when you kiss someone you each have an ‘energy’ and when you kiss, the two energies meet and if the energies vibe together that’s the ‘spark’ which ignites and that’s what makes you want to do it again. Whereas some kisses don’t ignite because the energies repel against each other and that’s what makes you not vibe. DA FUQ. Anyways, now I found meaning to the phrase ‘it’s all in the kiss’..
I did a little survey on Instagram about kissing..
1. ‘Have you ever kissed someone who you was attracted to and the kiss just killed it?’
84% said yes – including me. I would say, I have kissed someone before who I thought carried all the physical attributes that I would look for in a guy but the kissing was just not there for me on any level at all. This actually determined our fate of meeting again because kissing is so important to me in whether or not I’ll be pursuing things further.
2. ‘Is someone being a good kisser important to you?’
96% said yes!
3. ‘Would you tell someone if you don’t enjoy their kissing techniques?’
62% said yes! – Personally I would never want to make someone feel conscious or unconfident if I don’t enjoy their kissing techniques. Maybe if it’s something that can easily be changed like for example, use less tongue or whatever, I might do. But to me whether or not you’re a good kisser is all down to personal taste. I just would probably not see them again?
4. ‘Have you ever felt a ‘spark’ when kissing someone?’
95% said yes! – I’m so glad that the majority said yes because this is what this whole post has been about, like it’s that thing that you can’t explain other than describing it as the ‘spark’. It’s not something that can be really described or not, it’s either there or it’s not.
5. ‘Do you kiss on the first date?’
75% said yes. – Agreed! If I fancy them then there’s no way I can’t just not kiss them. I want to see if the ‘spark’ is in the kiss or not. Because otherwise imagine seeing them again to find out your kisses don’t vibe. Also you want to see whether or not you find them romantically attractive or not, waiting for a first kiss for too long would result in the friendzone for me! Don’t get me wrong it doesn’t have to be a full on snog but a locked lips kiss is enough to know if you wanna see them again in my opinion.
6. ‘How important is kissing in a relationship?’
93% said VERY! Agreed! I don’t think I could be in a relationship if there was bad/no kissing. Kissing is soooo important.
7. ‘Can just one kiss turn you on?’
85% said yes! Agreed!
8. ‘Do you mainly lean-to the right or the left when kissing?’
60% said right, 40% said left. So apparently, turning to the right is the most popular way to kiss as if you turn to the left it’s viewed as more platonic! Interestinggggg.
Thanks so much to those of you who took part in the instagram polls which helped inspire me to create this post! Thanks for reading, DT XO